“At the end of the day, your relationships with the people in your life will be greater assets than any material things. Take time. Be present. You’ll thank yourself for it later.”
Today is January 1st.
It’s also the time of year when resolutions are made…
A new year. A starting line for change…
The underlying message?
Who you are is just not good…enough.
Do more. Be more. Or…in some cases do less.
Stop eating so much. Stop smoking.
Save more money. Get more exercise.
Blah. Blah. Blah.
Don’t get me wrong. These are all worthy causes and beneficial behavior changes. But they also pile on the guilt if…or when…you can’t push that plate of pie away. Or throw out those cigarettes. Or make it to the gym. You look in the mirror and just feel worse.
It’s also a lost opportunity to look at a bigger picture…
A resolution can be a serious committed decision. A pledge to work towards something truly worthwhile. That isn’t just skin deep. That actually lasts.
It can be a sharper focus on the people in our lives who have slipped to the back burner. The friend you haven’t spoken to in months or years. The neighbor you used to see out for walks. The distant relative who stopped sending holiday cards. The family member who stays hidden behind a wall of pain.
I believe that connections are what make us human. But they need our care and attention.
Another thought: Texting technology has its place, but there is no substitute for the sound of a loving voice. Or the comfort of an in-person hug.
And…there is absolutely no substitute for an actual conversation complete with eye contact.
I see it all the time…a family sitting together at a restaurant. Everyone texting with eyes glued to their phones. A forever lost opportunity. It breaks my heart.
There is too much to lose.